Anti-Christmas

Anti-Christmas

Christmas is an odd time of year.  You cannot ignore it.  It is there at every turn.   But for some Christmas isn’t an endless frivolity of mince pies, prosecco, tinsel and wrapping paper. For some, Christmas exacts emotional, physical and financial stress.   And some, are simply anti-Christmas. 

Here I am.  Stood posing against a brick wall in my Christmas party outfit.  I’ve made it to one event this year.   I’ve cancelled another.  It remains to be seen if I survive through the rest, or run to my hidey hole where I feel so much happier.   I’m not really anti-Christmas as such.  I’m just not feeling it this year.

I am not always such a Scrooge.  Christmas is normally my season.   I go all out.  I play Bublé on repeat from 1st December and wear a Christmas jumper every day of the work week.   My earrings get switched for snowflakes and I eat my own body weight in mince pie tasting competitions.   After all – we all need to know which high street mince pie tastes the best.

And my blog!   Normally my blog is filled with Christmas content; positively brimming with gift guides and party wear.   Neither options have remotely inspired me this year and so I simply haven’t written them.  After all, why put out Christmas content, when you’re feeling a little anti-Christmas?

An anti-christmas: plus size model wears a velvet blouse and leather trousers with bright orange jacket for her plus size christmas party outfit

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Orange Coat

I am a little stressed at the moment.   I won’t go into the reasons why as I’m very much a talk about the problems once I’ve solved them person. But I’m anxious, tired, not sleeping well and not exercising as much as I’d like.   All of this together means I’m just not feeling the festive spirit.  

I’m also fining Christmas frivolous to the extreme.   It seems to have become less about spending quality time together  and more about excess.  Endless gifts that no-one really wants and glittery cards that end up in the recycle bin.   Christmas parties with people you don’t know or like that much.  Too much alcohol resulting in hangovers that ruin your day plans.  I simply don’t want that any more.   I want something more relaxing and more fulfilling.

This year, family and friends have agreed to forego our regular gifting.   Every year we spend excessive amounts on items that we really don’t need. Do we really need another expensive face cream when we have 3 half-used ones in the bathroom cabinet already?   How essential are another pair of novelty socks that can be worn only on Tuesdays?  A nail varnish in a bauble?  How twee.

The Anti-Christmas: Plus size model wears a velvet blouse and leather trousers, with a bright orange coat, for her christmas party outfit.
The Anti-Christmas: Plus size model wears a velvet blouse and leather trousers, with a bright orange coat, for her christmas party outfit.

Instead, this year, we are making sure we spend quality time together.   We’re going to a spa day or out for a meal.  My husband and I are buying National Trust membership as promise of quality time spent with each other. And for all those other presents I normally buy?   I’m donating to charity instead.  Friends and family have either nominated a charity for me to donate to or given me permission to nominate a charity of my own.  

I’ve done this with Christmas cards for some time now.   The money that I would normally spend on cards and postage has been donated to a different charity each year.   Last year we supported a local homeless shelter.  This year, I will be donating to Bloody Good Period who work to end period poverty here in the UK.    I live a life of privilege.  I don’t need Christmas presents but there are others out there that do and I’d rather know that I’ve done one tiny bit of good with my privilege, than get yet another batch of cosmetics that I won’t use.

The anti-Christmas: plus size model wears a velvet blouse and leather trousers for her christmas party outfit.

But, of course, some people love the sheer joy of seeing someone open a surprise.  So, if you want to buy a present that someone can cherish the year over then why not buy an adoption or sponsorship?

4 Comments

  1. Sonja
    December 19, 2018 / 9:57 am

    I am usually a silent reader of your blog but to this, I just have to reply since it very much mirrors my own feelings! For some years now, we’ve done the charity thing, too, with very mixed reactions – some get inspired and think about the charities they maybe want to support come their next birthday, some find us to be spoilsports because suddenly “homeless dogs” or “microplastics” turn up like uninvited guests under the christmas tree. The National Trust idea is great, so I hope you and your husband get to experience many beautifly tours in 2019. Take it slow, don’t blame yourseld for scroogeing. I wish you a very relaxed and happy time with your loved ones!

    BTW, great outfit 🙂

  2. December 27, 2018 / 5:42 pm

    A National Trust membership is a genius gift idea! Sorry you’ve not had the Christmas spirit this year though, and I hope whatever troubles you is short lived. Wishing you all the best for 2019.

  3. December 27, 2018 / 5:46 pm

    I have to admit I really wasn’t feeling as Christmassy this year as I normally would, and I’m glad the festive season is now over x

  4. December 29, 2018 / 11:37 am

    I hope you will have a good sleep. You are stunning! Love the outfits

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