Promises to myself in the New Year

Charli and Iain walking on a beach in Devon.

What to say about the New Year? I don’t know really. It is a strange time of year – full of short-lived expectations after a week of reminiscing.

I myself have not reminisced about the year past as the New Year approaches. Regular readers will know that I have not felt particularly festive and, for New Year itself, I was mostly wrapped up in bed. I’m not sure I saw the clock hands turn to midnight. If I did, I was probably too busy coughing to notice.

I have my usual post-Christmas virus. They usually come after a busy period of festivities – far too much port and not enough vegetables. I can’t say that of the Christmas just gone – there was little port and plenty of vegetables. There was fresh air in abundance and I didn’t become cheese from eating so much of the stuff. Yet here I am, tissues stuffed up my nose, to welcome in 2019. Great!

Here’s to a healthy start to 2019!

Charli and Iain wear matching Christmas jumpers on a beach in Devon

New Year (same old pressures)

At this time of year it is so easy to feel the pressure to detox. The pressure to start fad diets, take out expensive gym membership that you’ll use for two weeks. To spend a fortune of vitamin supplements and purifying teas. To pad your soups with fillers and to banish sugar to the food recycling bin. But really, being healthy is so much more than these things and, in reality, much of the so-called wellness movement can be damaging both physically & mentally.

I’m not saying don’t try to lose weight if that is what you really want to do, but I will encourage you to ask why you really want to lose weight and how it will really make your life better. I’m also asking you to consider; what does wellness and being healthy really mean to you?

Wellness for me

For me, wellness is about taking time for myself, to stretch in my body and mind. To create space. It is to eat intuitively and without restriction. To exercise when my body wants and needs it. It is about pushing myself physically but in a place that is safe. To get plenty of fresh air. Allowing myself to go out drinking and dancing but also to stay at home with a herbal tea and a good book. To live my life, without fear of gaining of a few pounds.

Charli wears a wax jacket whilst walking her spaniel on a beach in Devon

And so, this new year, I’m making a few promises to myself to ensure wellness and wellbeing, both physically and mentally.

I promise to …

Only do exercise that I love and get more fresh air in the process

I will not feel the pressure to join a legs, bums or tums class just because a fitness trainer tells me to. Nor will I go for a run when the only result will be painful knees yet again. Instead, I will do the exercise that I love when I love.

I will take the dog for long walks on the beach or across Dartmoor. I’ll practice yoga and pilates – hopefully outside in the park or on Dartmoor, even if it means people seeing my bad form.

I will swim more and maybe even try some open water swimming – just as soon as I’ve found a wet suit to fit.

Take stock more, rather than diving straight in

I have made some rash decisions this year. Dived straight into things without really taking the time to consider what I want from life. I’m still not sure what that is, but I’ve learnt some valuable life lessons and in 2019 I promise to think a little more before acting.

Charli walks her dog on a beach in devon, wearing a wax jacket and a christmas jumper

This includes not overreaching.

I promise not to stretch my time to thinly by promising to do things I haven’t the time to do. Instead, I wish to spend my free time out of work doing the things I love. My yoga, my walking. To be more creative whether that be through art or photography or writing. They are each important to me, but slip through the net when things get tight.

Experiment more

Try new things. Visit new places. Cook new meals. Eat more intuitively – what does my body need and crave opposed to what is quick and easy. More variety is the spice of life, right? So I promise to experiment more and add something new and exciting regularly. I will say no to the things that bore me and yes to the things that intrigue and excitement me. I need to push aside the fears of not knowing and embrace that which I think is good for my mind and body.

These are not big changes to make but they are a step towards wellbeing and mindfulness. Now all that is left is to see where they take me!

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  1. January 1, 2019 / 12:47 pm

    I have that post-Christmas snot too! Hope you feel better soon and have a great 2019.

  2. January 1, 2019 / 2:06 pm

    Being kind to myself, others and the earth is what I’m aiming for in 2019. Work has been pretty stressful so taking time to do yoga and reading is a must for me so I don’t burn out. Trying to cut down on the amount of plastic I use and stuff I accumulate but I like to keep resolutions pretty loose.

    I hope 2019 brings you the growth and calm you are looking for

  3. January 1, 2019 / 4:17 pm

    I love this post and how much you are showing that you love yourself just by the actions you want to take. I think you have encouraged me to try and be kinder to myself going forward with any goals I make this year xo

  4. January 1, 2019 / 8:23 pm

    I definitely need to learn to love to exercise again this year. I like your line of thought!

  5. January 1, 2019 / 11:00 pm

    I love these promises, all about making the most of the little things and taking care of yourself. I hope you have a great year and look after yourself xx

  6. January 2, 2019 / 5:37 pm

    I’m all for being kind to yourself! I started making some changes to my lifestyle in November, rather than waiting for the New Year. The habits have stuck through Christmas and New Year so I’m hoping they’re going to last now.

  7. January 2, 2019 / 8:28 pm

    I think you’ve been realistic in your goals and I completely agree that exercising and doing ones you love rather than ones you think you should do will be much more beneficial. Plus walking the dog and getting out in the fresh out is much nicer than the gym!

  8. January 2, 2019 / 9:36 pm

    Really liked this post 🙂 I agree with experimenting more in life, always trying new things and remaining open minded is good 🙂 Trying new foods is always exciting! 🙂 x

  9. January 3, 2019 / 8:46 am

    I’m all for being kinder to myself in 2019 – as well as trying to fall back in love with exercising! x

  10. January 3, 2019 / 8:32 pm

    Good luck with all of your plans. I love the start of the new year as it feels like a new start can be made, not for any big, grand plans, just renewed energy and positivity. I hope it’s a great year for you.

  11. January 5, 2019 / 12:26 pm

    These are some great plans for 2019 for you. I think it’s so important not to force yourself to exercise. You need to be able to enjoy it!!